Comments on: Yes, Another Marriage Topic… Sosueme! http://imuslim.wordpress.com/2008/08/15/yes-another-marriage-topic-sosueme/ British Blogger, Desi Dreamer, Mad Muslimah Sun, 22 Feb 2009 16:38:44 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: iMuslim http://imuslim.wordpress.com/2008/08/15/yes-another-marriage-topic-sosueme/#comment-2973 iMuslim Mon, 18 Aug 2008 13:47:28 +0000 http://imuslim.wordpress.com/?p=661#comment-2973 I am quite surprised by the level of reaction to this post... considering it was meant to be light-hearted! Just shows the effects of culture, especially when connected to the marriage scene. I am quite surprised by the level of reaction to this post… considering it was meant to be light-hearted! Just shows the effects of culture, especially when connected to the marriage scene.

]]> By: Specs http://imuslim.wordpress.com/2008/08/15/yes-another-marriage-topic-sosueme/#comment-2964 Specs Sun, 17 Aug 2008 20:48:02 +0000 http://imuslim.wordpress.com/?p=661#comment-2964 Oh er, i'm late as usual. But, ah iMuslim, what a wound you've poked! The Pakistani system works EXACTLY this way. Its upsetting, and like Shahrzad said, its always the guy's choice first. And yes, 'no answer' is a very very common way. I think even here, people, if they're interested the first time around; really like the girl and can see the guy making little gestures of 'yes' to his mum, they leave some money for the girl and all. Most of the times, 75% of the rishta seekers are MOTHERS looking for their son's bride while the son already has someone in mind...and they're humoring their mothers till they give up and say 'Go find one for yourself, then!!' and he says, 'Ah, now that you mention it, Amma, i got a perfect girl in mind.' etc etc. Oh er, i’m late as usual. But, ah iMuslim, what a wound you’ve poked!

The Pakistani system works EXACTLY this way. Its upsetting, and like Shahrzad said, its always the guy’s choice first. And yes, ‘no answer’ is a very very common way.

I think even here, people, if they’re interested the first time around; really like the girl and can see the guy making little gestures of ‘yes’ to his mum, they leave some money for the girl and all.

Most of the times, 75% of the rishta seekers are MOTHERS looking for their son’s bride while the son already has someone in mind…and they’re humoring their mothers till they give up and say ‘Go find one for yourself, then!!’ and he says, ‘Ah, now that you mention it, Amma, i got a perfect girl in mind.’ etc etc.

]]> By: Ijtema http://imuslim.wordpress.com/2008/08/15/yes-another-marriage-topic-sosueme/#comment-2962 Ijtema Sun, 17 Aug 2008 19:19:59 +0000 http://imuslim.wordpress.com/?p=661#comment-2962 Assalamu 'alaykum wa rahmatullah I pray that you are in the best of health & imaan. This is a short message to notify you that this entry has been selected for publishing on <a href="http://www.ijtema.net/about-ijtemanet" rel="nofollow">IJTEMA.net, a venture to highlight the best of the Muslim blogosphere</a>. Please visit the site to find out more about our initiative. May Allah bless you for your noble efforts. Wa'salam (Submitting editor: Heheh... ) Assalamu ‘alaykum wa rahmatullah

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]]> By: Not Another Marriage Topic! http://imuslim.wordpress.com/2008/08/15/yes-another-marriage-topic-sosueme/#comment-2961 Not Another Marriage Topic! Sun, 17 Aug 2008 19:17:19 +0000 http://imuslim.wordpress.com/?p=661#comment-2961 [...] another marriage topic!” says our own IMuslim. She’s sharing an interesting idea from a friend, to help ease the “Is it a yes? Is it a no?” confusion in the marriage [...] [...] another marriage topic!” says our own IMuslim. She’s sharing an interesting idea from a friend, to help ease the “Is it a yes? Is it a no?” confusion in the marriage [...]

]]> By: Shahrzad http://imuslim.wordpress.com/2008/08/15/yes-another-marriage-topic-sosueme/#comment-2949 Shahrzad Sat, 16 Aug 2008 21:31:51 +0000 http://imuslim.wordpress.com/?p=661#comment-2949 The system your friend said used to be practised many years ago (50 or more) in Iran too. I think it's good for communities which dont recognise friendship of girls and guys or relationship between the two is restricted. Nowadays there is not kinda things to be stressed etc, bcs the girl and guy chose themselves by own and there is not this whole issue of introducing. In Iran, when girl and guy are interested, they talk to parents and they come directly for proposing. Also when one wants to come to girl's house, (withput being friend with etc) he is soso sure of his decision and it's girl who chose to say yes or no. I think it's desrespecting the girl, if she was the second one who has to chose. The system your friend said used to be practised many years ago (50 or more) in Iran too. I think it’s good for communities which dont recognise friendship of girls and guys or relationship between the two is restricted.

Nowadays there is not kinda things to be stressed etc, bcs the girl and guy chose themselves by own and there is not this whole issue of introducing.
In Iran, when girl and guy are interested, they talk to parents and they come directly for proposing.

Also when one wants to come to girl’s house, (withput being friend with etc) he is soso sure of his decision and it’s girl who chose to say yes or no.
I think it’s desrespecting the girl, if she was the second one who has to chose.

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